I rarely discuss my personal business on any social media because I feel my life is not entertainment for anyone else, besides my talking about my son and me missing him so much. I HAVE to get this off my chest though I feel it’s shortening my life span by holding it in.
I was married to my youngest son who is now 15. I’ve been divorced since he was 4. I’ve since had therapy on the matter and can care less about the man, it’s the father that makes me look at some men with the side eye asking, ” Are you one of those???…..”. Yes, those, the ones who divorce their children along with the spouse. As if the child had anything to do with the failed marriage or your wanting to move on to brighter pastures.
My son’s father now lives in Florida. He moved there for a about 4 months before he even bothered to call my son and inform him that he moved. Nice right?? But let’s get to the nitty gritty. He can live in timbuktu if he wanted to, I don’t think my son would even care. What he does care about is, why every time he needs something, I have to figure out a way to provide for it it to happen which most times comes much later since I am on Social Security Disability which the father knows about. From 2012 until January of this year, he told the court he wasn’t working and I received off and on mind you, a whole $25 a month. I finally got tired of it and went back to court in October 2016. Starting in January I finally began receiving adequate money. Low and behold, April 20th, it stopped. I’m told they have absolutely no job information on file for him which means he isn’t working or he’s working off the books so not to pay child support.
I’ve texted him many times almost pleading for his help, which I shouldn’t have to!!!!! He’s answered me back disrespectfully and then had the gall to have his new wife answer for him and said she will be speaking for him from now on. She had the nerve to tell me I should be grateful that he’s financially supporting my child because a lot of men aren’t. I had to inform her unless she knows something I DON’T know, I have nothing to be grateful for because he is NOT supporting his child.
She must not have any children or been given her grown woman card because NO woman should stand behind a man who does not take care of his children. I don’t give a darn how good he treats you. If he doesn’t have a relationship with his children, that should be a red flag, boo. I have no idea where this woman comes from or how she was raised but I can care less. I wasn’t married to her or had a child with her so therefore my business isn’t hers. She wants to run his business, have at it to your heart if content.
For years, he had our mutual friends think I was disgruntled over our failed marriage. You cheated, you go caught, I ended it. Point black period. I’m disgusted is what I am. There is no reason on this earth why I should carrying the burden 100% on my shoulders while he’s living the good life. I told her if she was so bothered, she can pay it, I really don’t care where the money comes from. I’m tired of having to tell me son wait, or no because bills take precedent. His needs are also important and it hurts my heart as a mother.
I just had to vent. It’s taking everything in me not to put his name in this post, but I wont. He knows who he is and I pray that someone who knows him, reads this. He comes off as a Christian family man. There is NO Christ in Heaven that would allow you to not take care of your children. That’s biblical. My heart goes out to every woman in my shoes. Sending you all love. Until next time……